“New Normal.” Not to be confused with the nbc sitcom that didn’t take off or the economic and business term used to refer to financial conditions. To me, new normal is a way to talk about facing a difficult reality. Maybe it’s not a reality we chose, maybe it’s not one we want, and it could very well be a reality that’s nightmarishly scary and the exact opposite of anything we ever dreamed wanting to be true. But it’s real all the same. What we had thought was normal isn’t anymore. It’s been changed - for better or worse - and our hearts have to make sense of what’s new.
Right now, amazing people in my personal life are being forced into a new normal and I’m both unable to process their reality or accept that what’s happened is real. Unreal and devastating life events have slammed some of the most precious people I know and what makes them even harder to handle is that these lowest of lows are following some of the highest of highs. This is when I say, “Life is so unfair.” It just is. It doesn’t make sense. How can things be so beautiful and perfect one moment and shattered the next? I’ll never understand…
As a second party to all this pain I try to be present and available but no sincere words, prayers, or physical presence can possible do what I wish could be done – a reversal of time. 2014 has been the best and now the worst. We are mad, sad, broken, scared – grieving what was and fighting what is about to be a new normal. I wish….well I wish a million things right now. Mostly I wish that the people I love didn’t ever have to feel this much pain and that I was better equipped to help them in some way. Again, I wish for a reversal of time – for things to go back to the normal we knew.
Gaining perspective is an amazing thing but it sucks that we get doses of it when horrific, heart breaking life events happen. I know that this blog is silly and that my day to day stresses are laughable – I don’t need jolting life events to occur to have that healthy perspective. But the past week has given me perspective on time. Moments, memories – time living fully present with family and friends – this is what is most precious.
Hug your people, be grateful for your normal, and send some positive thoughts or prayers to people who are learning to live life so different than what it was just a week ago.