Toast Talk

October 6, 2014

Well. I find it pretty hilarious that a week ago I wrote about my apartment move and the overall tone was, "no big deal...this isn't my first rodeo, here is what I'm gonna do...la la la." Guys, last week was epically horrible. I don't know what's wrong with me that I thought I could handle the situation all on my own and by Tuesday mid-day I was begging my mom to fly down that night and telling my dad what an idiot I was to refuse his offer to help. I'm an independent girl and like to do things on my own but I really beat up my body moving so much on my own and pushed my emotional stability to its breaking point when one thing after another went wrong. I could easily put pen to paper and give details on every single awful aspect of last week but I'd rather pretend it didn't happen since I'll most likely be moving again in 12 months. What I will do is share a few lessons learned and try to keep things short and sweet today so I can get back to unpacking...

 

– I should have had the movers move EVERYTHING. They came on Tuesday morning and I had a lot of boxes and they took all the furniture but still had stuff in my closet (and stuff Sally had left for me to deal with in her closet) and all my artwork that I figured I could just take care of on my own. That was a huge mistake and made for a full day of packing and moving that stuff by myself on Wednesday.

– Calling to make sure all your utilities transfer is good – but having your electricity turned off in your old place before you are finished moving out is bad. Very bad if where you live is 92 degrees and you need that electricity to run a vacuum and clean. So that happened. And it was almost the straw that broke the camel’s back. My electric company explained to me that it was my fault for telling them to end my service on the day I needed to be out and that I should have made it the day after. Good to know…now.

– Next move I’m not doing traditional boxes and I want to try those plastic bins (like this situation). They bring you the bins, you pack them, they move them, you unpack them, they pick them up. I ran out of boxes and was so paranoid about my movers taking certain items (they aren’t exactly gentle) and I wish I had done this because it would have made packing and unpacking so much easier. Next time.

– I only have two hands and I could have used an extra pair to help me unpack and assist with Blue. I’m sure the whole reason I didn’t think the move was a big deal was because I have always had 1-2 family members with me…this time around it took me twice as long and everything was twice as hard. Cue the tiny violins.

– My new apartment, sadly was less than clean when I moved in. I wish I had taken the time to check the cabinets, bathroom, and all that jazz before I started bring my stuff in so that I could have asked my apartment management to have a cleaning crew come in. Not a big deal now but it’s not the most ideal to move into a new place and have that “someone has been living here” feeling.

– The one part of the move I’m really proud of is my clean-up job at my old place. Once the electricity came back I went to townnnn making sure that every inch was vacuumed and all traces of Blue Moonbeam were gone. I’m so paranoid that being a dog mom will mean being penalized and losing deposits so I wanted to make sure I did my best to make the place look clean. Also, Mr. Clean Magic Erasers are fantastic. I went through three and they seriously do wonders to clean wall marks.

If you all have any lessons learned from your own moves, please feel free to share! I’m all about working smarter not harder and want next time to be less traumatic.

  1. You’re right. IT’s so so so worth it to splurge on a moving service. At least to do all the lifting for you. I have no problem packing boxes, but I’m not very helpful when it comes to moving the big stuff. We hired a company to help us move all of our furniture, and I would do it again. Helps with the peace of mind, and no one is fighting about how everything should fit in the truck.

  2. I MOVED AFTER 8 YEARS TO AN APARTMENT (AND DID IT SOLO) AND THEN DUE TO AN ISSUE WITH THE APARTMENT I MOVED TO, HAD TO MOVE AGAIN A MONTH LATER, AND NEVER GOT TO “SETTLE IN”. I MOVED AGAIN SOLO, AND REALIZED THAT ALL THE YEARS BUILDING TO INDEPENDENCE MADE ME STRONGER, BUT I REALLY JUST WANTED SOMEONE TO BE THERE WITH ME, FOR ME. SO THERE’S THE EMOTIONAL PART THAT SURFACES WHEN WE MAKE A PHYSICAL SHIFT OF SPACE, AND WHILE THAT CAN ULTIMATELY BE ENERGIZING AND REFRESHING, IT IS SO HARD UNTIL WE FEEL SETTLED, WHICH CAN TAKE SOME TIME. THANKS FOR SHARING THIS POST, AS IT RESONATED WITH ME, AND I’M STILL STRUGGLING TO “SETTLE IN” AND FEEL I HAVE A NEW HOME. AT LEAST YOU HAVE SWEET BLUE, AND YES, CAN’T RECOMMEND USING BINS TO MOVE ENOUGH – I DID IT THE SECOND TIME AND THEY WERE WONDERFUL, CLEAN AND FABULOUS TO PACK AND THE MOVERS LOVED THEM! HANG IN THERE AND THANKS FOR THE LIGHT YOU PUT OUT INTO THE WORLD THROUGH YOUR BLOG!!

  3. One suggestion would be to unpack one room at a time. It gets to be overwhelming having boxes everywhere but if you have at least one room done, you can use that as a place to wind down and take breaks without having to look at such a huge mess everywhere. We unpacked our bedroom first then did the kitchen so we could cook. The living room was a hot mess but we at least had the bedroom to eat in. Hope this helps and good luck! Moving with a dog is ESPECIALLY tough!
    XO
    http://www.hercharisma.com/

  4. I completely relate. Like another poster, I have a scar from moving my mattress from a large moving truck then up two flights of stairs with my roommate. Next time, definitely use those bins, and I save mine and stack them in a storage closet, which I Have been blessed to Have in my past two Places. They are Usually pretty cheap at the Dollar store, and they are totally worth it! Now, time to celebrate your move! Enjoy your upcoming vacation!

  5. I’m sorry to hear about your challenging day. but we all have a day like this—where we thought we could—and want so badly to—handle something that proves ot be too much. but you have done the best thing, you have helped all your readers from facing the same challenge you did. thank you so much for sharing, i too have a move in my future! xx

    —Rebecca
    wanderdust.co

  6. moving is definitely a struggle! I moved from washington back home to san francisco this year and after a 14 hour drive we had to unpack an entire 16 foot uhaul truck, it was miserable! but once it’s done, it feels so great to be home in a new place 🙂

    http://dearserendipity.com/

  7. I’m right there with you! i moved in august (by myself) and made many of the same mistakes you made. the good news is that you’re in and the hardest part is over! i hope you love settling into your new place.

    http://www.thesnapconcierge.com

  8. moving is the worst! i’m pretty sure i made myself violently sick this past time because my boyfriend and i moved everything ourselves. our movers never showed up in chicago and it was horrible!

    glad you are getting settled in! thinking of you molly!!

    xo, Jen
    http://www.comfortably-chic.com

  9. I appreciate your honesty! Moving sucks! I recently blogged about how much I hate it, too – but wasn’t as solution-oriented as you are 🙂

    The one things that was my saving grace: I just flat out asked for help from people, and offered to buy them dinner in exchange. This resulted in me helping others move later on, but I’m ok with that — it’s so much less stressful when it isn’t you!

    congrats on surviving – doing it solo is no joke!

    http://www.rejoycetoday.blogspot.com

  10. Molly, I have to throw some support at you on this one. I think i have ptsd from the last time i moved. I also have a scar. it’s on my knee from where my window ac unit (historic row house in Philadelphia) slid down my leg and onto the floor. needless to say, i definitely agree with you that moving requires more than one pair of hands.

    it was so brave that you tried to move on your own–and also brave that you asked for help when you needed it. i hope you are able to get unpacked and settled in soon. so you can take this next weekend off. and go to a bar. and try to forget the heinous memories of moving.

    aside from that, when i move i label bookshelves the way you would an excel grid (EX. shelf 3A = first column, third row, 1c = third column, first row). i write the label in large print on each side of a box, and then put the entire contents of that shelf into the nicely labeled box. That way, i don’t have to think about where anything goes when i’m unpacking. because by the time I’m unpacking, i’m ready to lose it anyways. it’s a little ocd, but it works for me.

    Good luck getting settled in–i’m sending happy thoughts your way!

    k

  11. Molly i cant even. This sounds just like my move to San Fran a few months back. I LITERALLY got a tear because i totally identify with that low where you call your parents and feel like that little girl again.

    chin up girl, the hardest part is over. I know you probably miss sally too and there will be other hard parts along the way. just know its only for right now & you have people rooting for you!

    xo, America

    http://www.estiloamerica.com

  12. That sounds awful. I am moving out of my parent’s house for the first time over summer 2015 and I am dreading the moving process. Doesn’t help that I hoard a tiny bit due to emotional attachment to old cheerleading uniforms and books I read as a kid. Not only that, but living on my own at 20 is freaking me out!!
    xoxo Kennedy
    Saguaros & Stilettos
    Northern Indigo

  13. Yikes! Well I’m glad you survived your moving week (sounds literally like Hell with that hot texas heat!!!). As a renter, I always dread the fact that at some point we will have to move … AGAIN.

    I think the one thing I’ve learned (probably not of too much use) is that however much Stuff you think you own, multiply it by 10. There’s always stuff that is kind of out of sight out of mind (clothing in dressers, boxes in closets, that stash of college memories, that juicy sweats collection that you just won’t let go of, etc.) Oh and that lovely book collection, yes it is heavy as a mother. 🙂 Hope you enjoy your new place and cheers to making new memories!!!

  14. I vowed that the next time we move, we hire movers. i’m fairly certain that my sanity is worth way more than what they would cost us. Now that the FIASCO(s) are over, I hope you’re able to get settled in!

    26 and Not Counting

  15. Aw man, moving is NO fun! I always get super emotional on top of the actual stress of moving too. I’m like you, I always want to try to tackle everything on my own (and am so bad about asking for help). But I’m quickly learning that there’s no shame in asking for a helping hand. At least you’re finally in and all settled and can start turning that apartment of yours into a home! Thinking of you (and cant WAIT to see what you do with it 😉

  16. YES! Magic erasers saved me when i had to clean our apartment…how it has been a week for me too since the movers came and we literally had our luggage and an air mattress left is beyond me. I was so happy for you reading last week’s post about having moving down but…eek! That power thing stinks! Glad to own you can settle in now and just enjoy your new space with your baby.

  17. My husband and i subscribe to the solution of “throw money at the problem.” We had movers do the pack and move for us when we moved to a larger apartment (same building, much like your situation) and it made life SO much easier! Next time I’m hiring someone from handybook to help with the unpacking too. and there’s no way we are moving for a looooooong time.

    1. I love this mentality! I’m DEF going to throw money at the problem next time!! Y’all crack me up 🙂 xx – M

  18. at least it’s over? one tip: I always, always board my dogs when I move. it’s just one less thing to worry about and I tend to find that mine get anxious with all the coming and going anyways. blue seems like a pretty care-free pup, but maybe it’d make it easier for you to hustle and bustle next time with him occupied elsewhere!

    1. I honestly went through an almost identical situation a year ago. i moved into my own place after 10+ years of living with roommates and having either them or my family help with the move. I refused all offers of help thinking it wouldn’t be a problem to do it myself since i was hiring movers. like you, i only wanted the movers to take the big pieces, thinking i could just take all my clothes and odds and ends in my car and make a few trips. i severely underestimated how many trips i would need to take back and forth, especially with just me doing the loading and unloading. I also was not able to get the keys to my new place early and therefore had to do all of the moving and cleaning my old place all in one day. cut to midnight that night and i was still unloading piles of clothes from my car into my new place, feeling like my arms couldn’t possibly carry another load and practically crying from exhaustion. so you’re definitely not alone in this situation, moving is always horrible and all we can do is learn from our past experiences and go from there! (and definitely say yes when people offer to help) good luck getting settled in your new place!

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