Coming from such a crazy, large family, I’ve had this secret notion that eloping would be the most romantical way to simplify my some-day wedding. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good wedding and think they are wonderful, but the selfish part of me wants my wedding to be all about me and the guy I’m promising to spend my life with – I worry that all the “other” parts of planning the event will get in the way of the bigger picture.
But – of course there’s a but – this past weekend Sally and I were guest at the wedding of our our sweet friend Mary and there were so many aspects of it that made me re-think my eloping dream. First of all, there is something really magical about being a part of someone’s wedding day. I always get emotional listening to couples say their vows, and maybe it’s because I love Mary so much or consider her such a close friend that listening to her and her now husband’s vows really hit me on Saturday. These two crazy kids really love each other! Not that I ever doubted that (at all) but wedding ceremonies, no matter how intimate or large, really do shine such light on what entering into a marriage is all about. It’s such a special promise to see two friends make. Annddd I get teary eyed even thinking about it now. I also think I might be the only person who thinks that first dances are completely adorable and not cheesy.
Aside from the honor of being selected by the bride and groom to celebrate their special day with them, my second favorite part of weddings is seeing the love their families have for them. Mary’s dad made a darling speech before the reception kicked off and you could tell how happy he is that Mary found her match – there was love and happiness just radiating from him and the rest of the family members. I get so mushy over that kind of visible love. When a sister tears up watching her brother (who is also the groom) dance with their mom… When the mother of the bride can’t stop smiling… When the parents of the bride and groom watch their kids run through a tunnel of sparklers and leave the reception just the two of them… I blame Father of the Bride for making me so sentimental during weddings.
The amount of time, thought, energy, and well, money, that goes into planning a wedding was really where I thought eloping would so nice… No reception to plan, no guest list to worry about. But a wedding reception is the best kind of party – all the guest are your close family and friends who care about you and want to toast to your love. It’s really a celebration of the couple and I love seeing how the event reflects their personal style. Besides, when else in live do you get to have such a big party with all your favorite people in one place to mark a personal milestone?
Basically, Mary’s wedding has pushed all thoughts of a quite some-day elopement far from my mind. A wedding is a far off thing for me personally but I’m realllly enjoying being the guest at the weddings of so many friends!
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